Actually, what I find surprising about the response is that no one is denying my main thesis that women are simply not attracted to men — period. Now this seems grotesquely silly and must be wrong. But the massive amount of energy spent by women to avoid unwanted attention would say otherwise. As one commenter noted, it must simply be exhausting being on the defensive all the time. It must be something that women are attracted to that one unicorn and need to reject the 99.99% of the flotsum and jetsum. So you ask the question about how to attract that one unicorn and reject the rest? Well, you can’t. They say 95% of everything is crap, but to get to the good 5%, there is no way around kissing all the frogs to get to the prince. This is all symptomatic of our fully screwed up world where it is a complete wonder how any 2 people manage to meet. It’s nobody’s fault and I’m not being critical — I’m just calling it as I see it. I certainly haven’t figured it out, the world seems like a wholly unfriendly place where everybody keeps their eyes on their phone and nobody dares talk to anyone.
If I were doling out advice that I have no right or knowledge to give, I would advise women to be on the actual lookout for the man you are looking for as opposed to thinking that every man in the room is out to kill me. Try to find that respectable person you are looking for. Show some active interest in seeing who is there. If you find someone, then make the first move — like stare at them. I’m sure he’ll get the message and be quite surprised that someone is looking at him since that really just doesn’t happen. After that, it’s up to you to determine if that is the guy you’re looking for or not and you may have to be uncomfortably aggressive in doing that — because the good guy won’t be accustomed to hitting on every girl around him and will likely not feel comfortable with showing interest until you do. But I think we have to get out of our usual behaviors in order to break this impassible logjam that we currently have. So, you can continue to ignore the peanut gallery, but be open to actively searching for the guy that you pick, that looks right to you. If you sit by passively and only select among the guys who approach you, then you really aren’t picking since those will be most of the flotsam and jetsam who will hit on anyone and you are actively trying to avoid. Although I think it is still extremely rare for even a guy to actively hit on women. I think there is this tiny population of men who have been the bad apple and completely spoiled the barrel of women so that they see all men as bad apples. So my advice is, if you want to find the good guy, then you pick them. Prove me wrong that women aren’t attracted to men.
