How about "You just aren't looking". You spend inordinate amount of energy avoiding unwanted attention. In the gym (which is the perfect place to meet a great guy), you do the same as everyone else which is to wear your giant headphones and do everything to avoid eye contact and look as unapproachable as possible. It's like you expect the good man to break into your house and sweep you off your feet. Not going to happen, you have to do something to contribute by providing some effort as this article suggests. But mostly stop being so paranoid that you automatically repel all men by being unapproachable.

Once again, the gym is the prefect place to find a good man who takes care of himself, is willing to do the work, is successful and if you just take off your goddamn headphones and make some eye contact, work on the machine next to him, you could find him. That is some practical advice for where you can find a good man.