No, you should fully expect that your marriage will become "roommates". It is inevitable and unavoidable and perfectly "natural". However, people have this unrealistic expectation that they will be "in love" forever just like when they met.
Oh please!!!
This is one of the main reasons why women overwhelmingly initiate divorce more than men. Men are happy as long as the house isn't burning down and are perfectly fine with a cooperating roommate. But women more typically "expect" that there has to be passionate "love" and if they don't have that, then they don't have a relationship, so they become irrationally unhappy and spiral into divorce. The men in these relationships are often broadsided out of blue, thinking "everything was fine".
It is shameful how women discard their perfectly good men because they're not in love anymore. There is a reason why marriage vows say for better or for worse. They should really say for in love or out of love to make it clear what kind of commitment is being made. Instead this commitment is becoming a complete joke with over half of marriages failing. Anyone making this vow is just lying to themselves because it is easier than ever to divorce someone and we just don't have the discipline to make an actual commitment.
So, you're not in love anymore - go cry me a mountain! Maybe if you understood that the reality that for most people, that this is an expected part of a relationship and is perfectly normal. Then you could relax and stop feeling like a trapped animal seeking divorce. The worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves. That "we will always be in love" is just a lie promoted by Hollywood. This is like believing it is always safe to cross a highway looking at your phone. If you believe that, you are going to get killed by that lie and be very disappointed. If you believe the truth that you must look both ways before crossing (or that relationships normally proceed to roomateships) , then you will be safe.
It's perfectly normal, maybe there are very few for whom stay in the honeymoon stage, but for 99.9% of regular people, Jessica's experience should be expected and embraced.
