Yeah, but you can't tell "kindness" from across the room. What really matters is being able to attract the attention of someone in order break the ice so that two people can meet. It is the "tallness" or "hotness" of the guy that will allow the initial interaction. If that doesn't happen, then nothing happens and "kindness" is not a consideration.

The basic problem is that these types of lists typically consist of what women look for in a long term relationship. This is fine, but it won't get your foot in the door because none of these things are things you can visibly assess. Yet, you have to get past the initial barriers women put up to even start a conversation. So this is why you still have to be "tall", "rich" and "muscular" in order to even have a chance at showing them you are "kind".

I would refer you to this youtube link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUUdx-zKtTc

At 20 minutes shows the list of 9 things women look for but won't admit and the 9 things they "say" they look for. The things they don't admit are the things that get your foot in the door. This video expresses this same sentiment that actually all 18 are valuable, but some are needed for long term and some are needed to get the initial attraction. Nothing wrong with that, but when you try to emphasize something like "kindness", a guy could become the kindest guy in the world and they still won't get a date because they are not hot. That is a cruel reality. So, the list that men have is still quite a valid list.