Yup, people get divorced over dishes left in the sink. I know if I did that, it would be absolute death the next morning.

The question is - what is to be done about this?

While this would be wildly unpopular, I would dare to say that the person handing out the death is more responsible than the person leaving the dishes.

Ultimately, you can control how you react to things and your "expectations". When our expectations are not met, then you become unhappy. But the secret is that we can modify our expectations and therefore can actually control our happiness rather than blaming the person we're living with.

Try digesting this. You control your happiness - if you are unhappy, you may need to adjust your expectations which may be unrealistic because you are trying to match a media created Disney princess fantasy that doesn't exist for anyone.